Live life while figuring it out
Don’t put life on hold to figure it out
It seems like the logical thing to do
Put all your focus into one thing, hunker down, force yourself to make it happen
‘burn the boats’
Then re-emerge as your new and improved self
Thing is,
Most won’t re-emerge
The on hold approach is so bad not only will you not get results
You’ll develop new problems far worse than what you initially set out to solve
Here’s why
1 – Equation Density
All those unsatisfied needs from other areas of life WILL unconsciously get projected onto what you’re trying to do
You won’t be able to think clearly
You WILL overthink
Conditions will get added to the equation of what you’re trying to solve/accomplish
Conditions that belong in other areas of life
For Example – guy doesn’t have a source of income and stopped socializing
Unconsciously his mind will look at what he is trying to do, and find ways to quickly get money and validation from it to satisfy the needs it’s starving for
This is why so many people fall victim to scammy make money online methods
UNCONSCIOUSLY they gravitate towards it due to being in a situation which requires money right now
It’s a perfect alignment to their energy, it’s not merely a matter of ‘ignorance’
I speak from experience here
Every time i’ve ever accomplished anything was when other areas of my life were decently satisfied
Not perfect, but enough to not project into what I was trying to do
It’s incredible how much of a night and day difference this is looking back at the contrast
I’d make better decisions, i’d get to work immediately, I would not overthink or procrastinate
and ironically NOT needing the result made it effortless for me to do the work to get the result
If you believe burning the bridges works, if you think putting yourself in a situation like that will ‘force’ you to find a way and ‘make something happen’
Feel free to try it
Every time i’ve done it, it’s failed miserably
In fact SO BAD that it would create new problems far worse than what I originally set out to solve
2 – Parkinson’s Law
Parkinson’s Law States:
“work expands to fill the time available for completion”
and
“work complicates to fill available time”
Yet another paradox, irony, counterintuitive concept
The reason people waste time is because they have time to waste
The reason for overthinking (seeking unnecessary complexity) is a energetic match to having UNLIMITED TIME and ambiguous non existent objectives
Complex/Abstract is the realm of unlimited
Simple/Direct is the opposite – limited time, clear objective
Why is the objective unlimited, complex, and unclear?
As we stated earlier, it’s unconsciously trying to solve EVERYTHING
Because isolation is giving them NOTHING
Everything is the realm of abstract, complex, and unlimited
When we have less time we value time more
When we have unlimited time, time becomes worthless and taken for granted
If you have a job, social activities, hobbies, you exercise, etc
Time left to get things done is limited
Your mind will fill that time with something tangible, direct, needle moving, simple
…because it has parameters, it’s not unlimited
The more free time you have, the less you value time
The combination of those two leads to boredom
“The devil finds work for idle hands”
More free time = higher probability of making bad choices
One crucial caveat here,
This is most essential when making a change, doing something new and unfamiliar
After a while as identity shifts you naturally will select better quality activities for your free time
However in the beginning, when making a new change. This free time law is CRUCIAL
All those moments left idle are opportunities to slip back to the default habits, the old identity
But it gets even worse….
3 – Energy Match
Not living your life, hiding while you solve something, suffocating self from needs
Is the energy of STAGNATION & REPRESSION. It’s STILLNESS
That energy will get matched/projected onto whatever you are trying to do
STILLNESS/REPRESSION/HIDING/AVOIDING
“How you do anything is how you do everything”
“When it rains it pours”
How you do anything reflects in everything you do because it’s a reflection of your energy/current identity/current operating system
Which is why whenever I accomplished anything, I was also accomplishing things in other areas of life, and living my life
Results came effortlessly
When results were impossible was when I wasn’t living life, in isolation, trying to figure things out and ‘make things happen’ then thinking i’d re-emerge as the improved self
That can’t work
The energy is contradicting
Improvement, results, progress is a dynamic moving energy
Isolation, hiding, avoiding is a repressive, stagnant energy
Laws of Momentum at play here is well
You can’t expect to move the needle, grow, and make progress
When everything you do has the energy of stagnation, reactivity, waiting, dormant, idle, passive
But it gets even worse….
4 – You develop new and far worse problems
You may have heard of the rat park study
Pretty much rats were put in isolation with water and cocacine
They’d use the cocacine, get addicted, overdose, and die
Then they recreated the experiment
This time the rats were in a community. Other rats of both sexes, toys to play with, things to do, that exercise wheel thing, etc
None of the rats used the cocacine
We can stimulate endorphins from producing or consuming
Working out, working on projects, socializing, intimacy, engaging in hobbies
These all trigger endorphins by producing
The inverse is through consuming
Processed foods, sugars, stimulants, drugs, etc
As we said earlier your mind WILL find ways to get what you need
Which pretty much means, you’ll start picking up bad habits
You’ll NEED stimulants just to function normally due to not producing what you need
This 4th and final stage is where you pretty much are fucked
You’ll develop addictions, bad habits, gradually forming a new identity
…and the worst part is
These things then make it even harder to solve/accomplish the initial problem you set out to solve
What people think are performance enhancers do the opposite, but feel effective because they artificially jolt endorphins, heart rate and other biological aspects
Because of these you’ll think less accurately
Your dopamine sensitivity will become fried killing your motivation
Your emotions will fluctuate more variably (further reducing cognitive accuracy)
The crashes will lead to depression
The spikes will lead to anxiety
All of these also effect your natural ability to recover/repair throughout the day and during sleep
Leaving you further fatigued
It’s a downward spiral
Eventually,
…as wild as this may sound symptoms develop aligned with ADHD, bipolar disorder, and schizophrenia
Maybe a topic for another article, but you may be surprised. Unlike it’s sometimes portrayed these things aren’t intense twitchy things
In that isolation there is not enough feedback from reality, theories get doubled down on with no confirmation from reality
Eventually leading people down paths so far off from reality, they become delusional
Biologically, the distorted cognitive states, mood swings, etc from the substances, and from the repressed mode of inaction/overthinking
Will create an ecosystem which makes it easier for irrational thoughts to formulate
You’ve already seen it, this is not a rare thing, it’s rampant
Signs of delusion for example:
Feelings of superiority despite no results or evidence in reality
Overexaggerated ‘out to get me thoughts’ (notice both men and women posting online about how the opposite sex is out to get them and how to ‘beat them’ at their tricks)
Or thinking everyone who makes money online is a scammer out to get them
Another example is thinking everyone is an idiot or useless or a loser (again exaggerated superiority and exaggerated inferiority towards others because there are not enough touch points in reality showing them that people are pretty normal)
So you see the point and importance of this article
Isolation to ‘figure it out’ and ‘make things happen’ then believing you’ll remerge as new and improved
Is actually so bad it yields negative results
Developing new far worse problems and never accomplishing the initial intention
But as I always like to do, let’s look at the inverse
Is there a situation where isolation is valid?
Absolutely
Here is the key distinction:
Entering it with a known end date and with a already known task to accomplish
versus what we went over in the article which is – no end date, no known purpose or specific task, attempting to ‘figure out’ and ‘make something happen’ and stay in isolation until it happens
Clear example of the positive use:
Let’s say you’ve been working on a product for a few weeks. It’s about to be done and launched
Taking maybe a few days or week on a bender
Going through the final edit and getting everything ready for launch, doing the launch
Then going to celebrate
You know exactly what to do, there’s a end date a exit point
Isolation is a place to visit, not a place to live
